theartoftransliness:

Zak: I’m certain there are people out there who have figured this out. You might want to ask this over at FTM sex talk, which focuses specifically on sex related questions. Gaytransguys is also a pretty good source of information. There are quite a few resources on helping gay trans men navigate the dating and hook up scene scattered here and there (for instance, Chase’s video on being trans on Grindr, queertransmen.org, or videos like this one about what it’s like being a gay trans man). Those might be worth checking out to get an idea of what works for other people. There are a lot of different ways that people deal with this sort of thing, but short of being upfront about being a top and explaining to interested parties how sex would work, I’m not entirely sure what to recommend. So yeah, I’d recommend continuing to ask around and look up resources like the ones I’ve linked to. Hope that gives you a good start toward answering your question. 🙂